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Alone time.

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Have you noticed that there’s an ebb and flow to everything in life? The sun comes up, the sun goes down,the tide comes in, the tide goes out. If you’re not currently in a relationship, it simply means the sun has temporarily set! the tide is currently out. As sure as the sun will rise again and the tide will come back in, you will eventually be in a  relationship.

Unfortunately, today’s society often assumes being alone means loneliness. Nothing could be further from the truth. I spend a lot of time alone, but I am rarely lonely. I am very protective of my time and weigh the pros and cons of everything I do. You can always make more money, but you will never get back the time you’ve wasted. The clock is ticking and no one knows how much time they have left. This is what makes life exciting.

Instead of moaning on the fact that you currently don’t have someone special in your life, why not take the time to clear the weeds in your life. I bet there’s a closet that’s begging to be organized. There are probably things you don’t need or use that can be sold or given away. Junk slowly accumulates in your life and before you know it, you feel overwhelmed. You may have heard that in order to bring new energy into your life (a partner, etc), you need to clear out the old energy.You certainly won’t have the time to do it when you meet him or her, because you’ll be so high on love that you probably won’t want to do much of anything except be with or think about your  sweetheart.
You think everyone is having a great time except you.Of course you know it isn’t true. .(Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that everyone in a relationship is happy.”It’s better to be alone than in bad company” you see!!!) The human mind is what it is, we idealize what we don’t have, and have a short term memory for all the bad times we went through when we had someone in our lives.
So keep in mind that everyone is looking for the “right person” but few people concentrate on being the “right person”. Take this time to be honest with yourself and figure out what you need to do or change in order to become someone irresistible, the type of person everyone is looking for but is so hard to find. If you can’t be honest with yourself, ask a close friend. Use this alone time to “be the best that you can be”, because before you know it, you’ll be in a relationship, and if you’ve done your homework, you’ll never be alone again!

An awesome date!

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You do not have to plan a big, elaborate date to enjoy a day with your boyfriend. Sometimes the simple dates turn out to be the most memorable one with the right atmosphere and a little planning,(well for me if you ask, any date with my boyfriend is always so special and romantic!!)

Like today, i had the most wonderful day of my life… ah!!! it was awesome. For those,who don’t know much about my BF,let me tell you.. he’s not the kind of guy who will plan a date ahead of time, he’s not much of a romantic guy either instead he’s  a “serious-sam” type of a  guy.But today he just made my day!He proved himself way romantic than i can ever imagine him to be. He was dressed superbly and was looking damn hot..  he picked me from my house (even complimented me!)and we went for lunch at a charming Chinese restaurant, we had finger-liking meals while we were engaged in a conversation of our future and then we went for a little long drive that ended up sitting near a beautiful lake kissing and holding hands (like the giddy kids we used to be when we were in junior high.)and watching the sunset.Then on the way back home we went to the  terrace of his apartment…hugged each-other and shared moments that’s gonna last in our heart forever!!

The date was planned flawlessly and involved all of my favourite things… from eating to hanging out!

Sometimes,simply enjoying the company of your love is just what you need and is  wonderful. Its all about keeping things light and romantic!

This ones for you baby…

When I first met you
I felt like I had known you forever,
telling you my secrets
and what I didn’t want ever.
you listened to me
I bet you thought I’d never end,
who would have thought
we would become more than just friends.
Over a period of time,
I got to know the real you.
A boy so caring and gentle,
with a heart so true.
You’ve survived your life
with hurt and loneliness by your side.
I told you I’d never leave
because of the feelings I have inside.
I know you
like no one I have ever known,
and sometimes I wonder
what I’d do if you were gone?
So I have decided
time answers all.
If it is meant to be
time will remove the wall.
I love the way we are together,
you can always make me smile.
Will it ever really be forever?
I guess I will have to wait awhile.
Time will reveal, what lies ahead
but always remember
what I have said.
Meeting you has changed my life
and I really love you so,
the feelings I feel for you
I am never letting go.
Remember me always and I will too.
I always think of me and you…!!

thanks for everything that you did today just to make the day special. Love you lots!!

What does dreams really mean???

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Ahh.. how to start? i got up crying today.. i had a dream or in my opinion a
nightmare that my BF cheated on me! I mean this is crazy we’ve been together
for 12 long years and  i trust him 100% and i know that he would never ever
do something like this to me!

well this wasn’t the first night in which i
saw him cheating on me but for the past 3 nights I’ve been dreaming that he
has been with another girl. the first one i didn’t know the girl he was with, maybe she was
just  a girl (from our  past) kissing him  under the covers…oh that dream was so
horrifying! the second and third(including the one i saw today) were really
bad..i mean it made me shed  a lot of tears than anyone can imagine!
these dreams are horrible i get heartbroken in each one. what the hell is
happening? I really feel this cannot be thoughts of my conscious mind???

So i made a small research about Dreams and what they really mean!And this is what i found…

“Dreams are a series of imaginary experiences based on images, ideas, emotions and sensations that we are subject to during regular sleeping patterns.”

There are many theories as to why we dream, and for centuries many people have tried to attach meaning and interpretations to their experiences. Here are  few theories as to why we dream:

1.Bad dreams allow us to control emotions in the ‘real’ world.

2.Dreams regulate moods.

3.Dreams help us to ‘make connections in a safe place’.

So the main point here is to keep your thoughts balanced.Dreams are also thoughts that  provide some sort of mood regulation for us while we are sleeping. For example, if you were to fall asleep with  a negative mindset, you are more likely to have dreams about something positive, and therefore wake up feeling better, as your mind tries to balance itself emotionally. Perhaps this is why so many people ‘sleep on it’ before dealing with emotional stress or great changes in their life.

Your subconscious is actually responsible for most of your dreams, so things that you push to the back of your mind resurface in your dreams while you sleep.

So friends have you ever wondered what your dreams mean? Have you ever heard the song “A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes?” Do you believe that’s true?Feel free to share me with your experience and let me  know what your dreams says to you!

Do men want to get married???

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Love and marriage is not a game!

It’s about finding the right person, at the right time and under the right circumstances so the marriage will be lifelong.

Maybe some men don’t want to get married(like my BF), now or ever.u know the saying,”Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” is true. Women are making it too easy for men. They’re giving sex away. I would hate to say that there are women too (like my elder sis) who also don’t want to get married and never will.

As children, men don’t fantasize about being married–as we girls often do.It takes a while for us to begin to appreciate that marriage is valuable for us and not just for women. It’s easy to see that marriage happens when you fall in love with someone, but even then many men will marry because they want to keep the woman from marrying someone else. So it becomes a way of protecting their investment basically rather than looking at it as something that’s valuable for themselves.

So here’s Ten reasons why men won’t commit, or don’t want to get married.

  1. They can get sex without marriage more easily.
  2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by living-in rather than marrying.
  3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
  4. They want to wait until they are older enough to have children.
  5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.
  6. They are waiting for the perfect ‘soul-mate’ and she hasn’t appeared yet.
  7. They face few social pressures to marry.
  8. They don’t want to marry a woman because of a life-long commitment. .
  9. They want to own a house before they get a wife.
  10. They want to enjoy single life for as long as possible.(This one’s especially for my BF!!!)

(These findings may not be what women want to hear or believe!!!)

What about you? If you are a married man, what was your “ah ha” moment where you knew you wanted to get married to your girlfriend? If you are a single man, what are your thoughts on marriage? Ladies, what do you think about the idea that men really don’t want to get married but feel pressured in various ways to tie the knot???

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