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Hmmm… Friendship???

Well everyone has their own standards to friendship.Some people look for friends who are always there,some look for friends who are dependable and so on.

But I am just looking for one thing when I look for a friend,

‘when that person is like me’,and I have a really dear friend, Alok… aka,”Aloo-chat”! who would never give up and is exactly what a true friend should be!Always ready to help me no matter what the circumstances be.. guide me, encourage me and moreover makes me laugh to my hearts glory.

I believe that God gives us friends because in one way or another,these people are angels sent from above to guide us, help us and strengthen us.So the more we love our friends, the more we feel loved, happy and enjoy life.

So here I listed the top reasons why and what I like about him…

He keep my secrets: Aside from God, of course, there are other people who know my secrets…and Aloo, is one among those ‘good secret keepers’.You’ll know a person is not a friend when he leaks your secret, seriously. A true friend is when they keep the secret, and makes that funny facial expression in times that your secret is about to spill but your friend still tends to save the secret from being exposed.(and he’s exactly like that!) so a true friend feels what his friend feels, no friend wants his friend to be sad. So when Aloo tells me a secret, I lie to people If I have to, just to keep that secret, and he does the same with me as well.

I am never alone because of him: Yes! you know the saying,’birds of the same feathers flock together’..Aloo has always been there for me through my ups and downs.(believe me he has witnessed all those difficult times of my life,that made my life pathetic..well i would rather try to forget!) .Well…no friend wants to see their friend suffering. Of course, they will not know what you are going through unless you tell them. They are not fortune tellers to know every little thing happening in your life. Its better to utilize your friends, they are there because they are your partners in crime. and you are never alone.Friends complete a missing piece of your heart, especially when that piece is unsearchable anymore.

He makes me happy:Of course, who would make those dull moments, turn to be happy ones? FRIENDS! and Aloo is surely that special friend who me happy when im grumpy.he makes sure that i’m happy and every moment is a smile in my heart. he might look stupid but he does it, just to make me feel better and to make unforgettable memories, too. I can say I am the goofy one among my friends. I don’t like dull moments, it’s like your wasting time. So instead of torturing yourselves with silence, kill yourselves with laughter. Aloo also have simple ways of making me happy. Simple surprises, gifts, jokes, bonding and chats are ways to make a me happy. But what would make a friend happier? It’s when you are right beside him. 🙂

He makes me cry:If Aloo makes me happy,he is also the best person who can make me cry. Since our friends have a place in our hearts, it would definitely hurt us if we remove them from our lives. They also make us cry by touching our hearts.He does unexpected things for me,he sacrifice for me, he set aside things for me,true friends are actually more than anything in life…and so does is he, for me!

 He is true to me: That’s the most important of all. He don’t have to pretend to be of high social status just to be with me. I am true to him as well. I don’t pretend to be rich or of high power. I make sure we are of the same level. he go crazy when I go crazy, and he get sad when he see me cry. I know when a friend is pretending, and it just turns me off. I feel that i don’t have to be friends with those kind of people because I will have that need to be like them, too. So i choose to be with simple people, with simple dreams, just like me. Or shall I say, I make friends to people who are like me…and as stated earlier, he is exactly like me.

I consider him as a part of my family:He is like a family to me,there might be small fights, arguments and disappointments, but he will always be there for me and will never leave me. I treat him as a part of the family, I make sure he is welcomed at home. I also give him special treatment and make sure he don’t feel left out. I am proud of my friend Aloo and I am never ashamed that he is my friend.

Me and Aloo have a lot in common: “You know that too??!?!” “I like that too!!!” “I know right???!?”, some of the identifiers that you have a lot in common. It’s so funny to think back to that moment when i’m talking to Aloo and the conversation gets deeper and then i enter a topic and then he goes, “You know that?”, with wide-opened eyes, then i go, “Who wouldn’t know that!” and we both laugh to our hearts glory,(thats the time when you realize you both looked funny, but then again you discovered something that bonds your friendship and makes it tighter.) It’s not even true that you don’t have a lot in common, you just have to discover that. Friendship is an unending discovery of secrets that will make you both more interested in knowing each other more, or shall I say, making fun of each other more. Having things in common with friends is fun, at least you get to enjoy things together and experience things together.

He teaches me life lessons: Like I stated earlier, friends are there to encourage us.. comfort us, but I missed the part where friends become teachers, too. And when I say teachers, i mean it.Aloo becomes strict and become perfectionist when it comes to advising and making me realize things that I don’t understand. When I become too hard-headed and too uncontrollable, he makes me realize what I did, not to offend me but just to inform me and tell me the gravity of what I did. And as a friend, I should not take these criticisms badly, these should be my stepping stones on becoming a better person. Friends also teach their learning in life, like I stated earlier there are things that friends have already experienced where we should learn from, and we should be the same with them, too.

I believe that friendship is one key of eternal happiness in life. I keep stating that life is a long journey and we should realize that in this journey, we are never alone. Just look around and your friends are here to support you. Walk the journey of life with courage because your friends are there for you.  Friends may come and go, but as you go through this journey of life, you’ll see that the person who remains walking with you at the end of the road is a true friend worth fighting for.

 

Why?

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Why is that sometimes people say things that they don’t really mean but it hurts all the same?

And then you find yourself again  to the same place that you let go by and don’t want to remember ever in your life! Its hard to figure out why things aren’t going the way it should and why everything’s falling apart. You try to figure out but all in vain… then life seems pathetic and even your sweetest dreams turns out to be the most horrifying nightmare!

For that special someone who loves hurting me all the time!

Its always my caring side for u,
I don’t ask for anything more from u,
Why u blame me for everything,
why u always say that i m wrong,
Is that so that,
loving someone is a crime,
if it is then this crime is done by almost all humans,
I cant say listen to me,
I always said that listen to that what i don’t say,
cant u read my eyes,
cant u see the care and love i have for u,
do u think i m lying to u,
do u think my feelings are fake,
Why u always hurt me,
why don’t u understand my feelings,
why u always say things that you don’t really mean,
why u always give tears in my eyes,
why is so that i cant forget u,
why is so that i always miss u,
why is it so that if u hurt me i bear the pain,
but cant see tears in your eyes???
Do u have the answers to these questions,
Can u tell me why u r always in my thoughts??
I just don’t know why this happens,
Why u always hurt me like this,
why u don’t care when i m hurt,
why it is so simple for u,
Is it really so simple????
I don’t know anything,
I haven’t expected anything precious from u,
and if i expected anything from u,then
its just your love and care,
if thats my fault then OK i m wrong and I m sorry for that,
I just want u to be happy always,
and nothing more now i want from u,
I don’t know u will feel the same as i do for u,
But i just know that i will love and care for u as i always do,
and no one can stop me from doing so,not even u,
U will be always in my heart as a tender thought,
and will always be dear to me,whether i say it or not,
My silence will say it all…..!!!

“I want to be remembered as the girl who smiles even though her heart is broken,and the one who can always brighten up your days even if she couldn’t brighten her own!”

What does dreams really mean???

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Ahh.. how to start? i got up crying today.. i had a dream or in my opinion a
nightmare that my BF cheated on me! I mean this is crazy we’ve been together
for 12 long years and  i trust him 100% and i know that he would never ever
do something like this to me!

well this wasn’t the first night in which i
saw him cheating on me but for the past 3 nights I’ve been dreaming that he
has been with another girl. the first one i didn’t know the girl he was with, maybe she was
just  a girl (from our  past) kissing him  under the covers…oh that dream was so
horrifying! the second and third(including the one i saw today) were really
bad..i mean it made me shed  a lot of tears than anyone can imagine!
these dreams are horrible i get heartbroken in each one. what the hell is
happening? I really feel this cannot be thoughts of my conscious mind???

So i made a small research about Dreams and what they really mean!And this is what i found…

“Dreams are a series of imaginary experiences based on images, ideas, emotions and sensations that we are subject to during regular sleeping patterns.”

There are many theories as to why we dream, and for centuries many people have tried to attach meaning and interpretations to their experiences. Here are  few theories as to why we dream:

1.Bad dreams allow us to control emotions in the ‘real’ world.

2.Dreams regulate moods.

3.Dreams help us to ‘make connections in a safe place’.

So the main point here is to keep your thoughts balanced.Dreams are also thoughts that  provide some sort of mood regulation for us while we are sleeping. For example, if you were to fall asleep with  a negative mindset, you are more likely to have dreams about something positive, and therefore wake up feeling better, as your mind tries to balance itself emotionally. Perhaps this is why so many people ‘sleep on it’ before dealing with emotional stress or great changes in their life.

Your subconscious is actually responsible for most of your dreams, so things that you push to the back of your mind resurface in your dreams while you sleep.

So friends have you ever wondered what your dreams mean? Have you ever heard the song “A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes?” Do you believe that’s true?Feel free to share me with your experience and let me  know what your dreams says to you!

Do men want to get married???

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Love and marriage is not a game!

It’s about finding the right person, at the right time and under the right circumstances so the marriage will be lifelong.

Maybe some men don’t want to get married(like my BF), now or ever.u know the saying,”Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” is true. Women are making it too easy for men. They’re giving sex away. I would hate to say that there are women too (like my elder sis) who also don’t want to get married and never will.

As children, men don’t fantasize about being married–as we girls often do.It takes a while for us to begin to appreciate that marriage is valuable for us and not just for women. It’s easy to see that marriage happens when you fall in love with someone, but even then many men will marry because they want to keep the woman from marrying someone else. So it becomes a way of protecting their investment basically rather than looking at it as something that’s valuable for themselves.

So here’s Ten reasons why men won’t commit, or don’t want to get married.

  1. They can get sex without marriage more easily.
  2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by living-in rather than marrying.
  3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
  4. They want to wait until they are older enough to have children.
  5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.
  6. They are waiting for the perfect ‘soul-mate’ and she hasn’t appeared yet.
  7. They face few social pressures to marry.
  8. They don’t want to marry a woman because of a life-long commitment. .
  9. They want to own a house before they get a wife.
  10. They want to enjoy single life for as long as possible.(This one’s especially for my BF!!!)

(These findings may not be what women want to hear or believe!!!)

What about you? If you are a married man, what was your “ah ha” moment where you knew you wanted to get married to your girlfriend? If you are a single man, what are your thoughts on marriage? Ladies, what do you think about the idea that men really don’t want to get married but feel pressured in various ways to tie the knot???

What does taking a break mean???

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I love my boyfriend and he asked for us to take a break because he felt that the problems in his life plus some of my own situations was having an effect on our relationship and holding us back from being able to have the type of relationship we could have.So he had asked for time and space!

Well……to me, taking a break means taking a step back from a relationship that isn’t meeting one or both partner’s needs, and reviewing how the relationship fits into their life picture over the long term. Its about re-evaluating the relationship without the stress of the relationship itself. The problem with ‘taking a break’ is that few people actually define what it means for their relationship.

Does it mean one or both of you can see other people, or do you not want to muddy the waters with more? Can you contact each other like texting or calling! or do you really take a break from interacting on all levels? When does the break end, and how will either of you know it? What outcomes are one or both of you hoping for from taking a break, and do both parties know it?

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