The “kiss”

Whether it took place behind the bike sheds or at the school classroom,or at boyfriend’s room
or near the church gate your first romantic kiss is likely to remain etched in your memory for like “ever”.

Well..”My first kiss was in the 9th grade in my classroom.
School was over and after everyone had already gone out of the classroom,my “BF” pulled me aside and asked me for a kiss.
That was the most wonderful moment of my life.

 

So here’s something for you baby!!

Feeling your body
Next to mine
It’s as if
All has stopped, even time
Your fingers running through my hair
Looking in each other’s eyes we stare
My heart is racing and my mind aches
Looking at you is all it takes
Our lips together, such a complete hold
I close my eyes and feel your soul
This is the place I have always missed
But how could that be
This is our first kiss.

So friends tell me, how well do you remember your first kiss? Was it behind the bike sheds at school,or at university fresher’ s party
or an altogether less predicable location?
Did you regret it instantly or did it lead to true love? share me with your own stories of your first kiss.

Alone time.

Have you noticed that there’s an ebb and flow to everything in life? The sun comes up, the sun goes down,the tide comes in, the tide goes out. If you’re not currently in a relationship, it simply means the sun has temporarily set! the tide is currently out. As sure as the sun will rise again and the tide will come back in, you will eventually be in a  relationship.

Unfortunately, today’s society often assumes being alone means loneliness. Nothing could be further from the truth. I spend a lot of time alone, but I am rarely lonely. I am very protective of my time and weigh the pros and cons of everything I do. You can always make more money, but you will never get back the time you’ve wasted. The clock is ticking and no one knows how much time they have left. This is what makes life exciting.

Instead of moaning on the fact that you currently don’t have someone special in your life, why not take the time to clear the weeds in your life. I bet there’s a closet that’s begging to be organized. There are probably things you don’t need or use that can be sold or given away. Junk slowly accumulates in your life and before you know it, you feel overwhelmed. You may have heard that in order to bring new energy into your life (a partner, etc), you need to clear out the old energy.You certainly won’t have the time to do it when you meet him or her, because you’ll be so high on love that you probably won’t want to do much of anything except be with or think about your  sweetheart.

You think everyone is having a great time except you.Of course you know it isn’t true. .(Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that everyone in a relationship is happy.”It’s better to be alone than in bad company” you see!!!) The human mind is what it is, we idealize what we don’t have, and have a short term memory for all the bad times we went through when we had someone in our lives.

So keep in mind that everyone is looking for the “right person” but few people concentrate on being the “right person”. Take this time to be honest with yourself and figure out what you need to do or change in order to become someone irresistible, the type of person everyone is looking for but is so hard to find. If you can’t be honest with yourself, ask a close friend. Use this alone time to “be the best that you can be”, because before you know it, you’ll be in a relationship, and if you’ve done your homework, you’ll never be alone again!

An awesome date!

You do not have to plan a big, elaborate date to enjoy a day with your boyfriend. Sometimes the simple dates turn out to be the most memorable one with the right atmosphere and a little planning,(well for me if you ask, any date with my boyfriend is always so special and romantic!!)

Like today, i had the most wonderful day of my life… ah!!! it was awesome. For those,who don’t know much about my BF,let me tell you.. he’s not the kind of guy who will plan a date ahead of time, he’s not much of a romantic guy either instead he’s  a “serious-sam” type of a  guy.But today he just made my day!He proved himself way romantic than i can ever imagine him to be. He was dressed superbly and was looking damn hot..  he picked me from my house (even complimented me!)and we went for lunch at a charming Chinese restaurant, we had finger-liking meals while we were engaged in a conversation of our future and then we went for a little long drive that ended up sitting near a beautiful lake kissing and holding hands (like the giddy kids we used to be when we were in junior high.)and watching the sunset.Then on the way back home we went to the  terrace of his apartment…hugged each-other and shared moments that’s gonna last in our heart forever!!

The date was planned flawlessly and involved all of my favourite things… from eating to hanging out!

Sometimes,simply enjoying the company of your love is just what you need and is  wonderful. Its all about keeping things light and romantic!

This ones for you baby…

When I first met you
I felt like I had known you forever,
telling you my secrets
and what I didn’t want ever.
you listened to me
I bet you thought I’d never end,
who would have thought
we would become more than just friends.
Over a period of time,
I got to know the real you.
A boy so caring and gentle,
with a heart so true.
You’ve survived your life
with hurt and loneliness by your side.
I told you I’d never leave
because of the feelings I have inside.
I know you
like no one I have ever known,
and sometimes I wonder
what I’d do if you were gone?
So I have decided
time answers all.
If it is meant to be
time will remove the wall.
I love the way we are together,
you can always make me smile.
Will it ever really be forever?
I guess I will have to wait awhile.
Time will reveal, what lies ahead
but always remember
what I have said.
Meeting you has changed my life
and I really love you so,
the feelings I feel for you
I am never letting go.
Remember me always and I will too.
I always think of me and you…!!

thanks for everything that you did today just to make the day special. Love you lots!!

Does religion difference affect relationships?

I was just thinking about this today! I have experience in my family where religious differences has caused a strain in their relationships.

It is difficult when a person in the relationship thinks that their religion is the right one. This seems like the most important issue to be cleared up. If both people in the relationship are understanding and totally accepting and respecting each-others religious views, then the relationship can work. However, if there is an underlying sentiment of one person that his/her religious views are better or more correct, then it will cause problems. It is not a negative thing to think that your religion is the right one,that is why you believe in it!

My BF has been raised as a Christian by going to a church on Sundays and praying in the name of Jesus and I have been raised in a Hindu family doing rituals under Hinduism.Well we have different beliefs regarding religion and spirituality, but those do not get in  the way of our Love and the special relationship we share and it’s not going to stop us from having wonderful kids in future. We believe our kids will grow up with multiple perspectives(both mine and his religious beliefs) and will learn to form their own opinions. This is so because  we agree with each-others beliefs and different views on things and respect it which I think, is actually a good thing as  it makes the relationship more interesting and  makes you feel there is always something new to learn and stuffs like that!

So difference of religion can negatively affect some relationships, but it’s not always the case! For some people, it is very important that the other person share their same religion. They usually believe that their religion is what their life is based on and usually seem to want to raise any future children in that faith. That’s fine for them. On the other hand for other people, though, it is less important that religious beliefs perfectly align. Actually, there are a lot of big things that I think can be different about people that may cause a strain on their relationships and should be hashed out with your family and GF/BF before you say, “I do”!!!

Do men want to get married???

Love and marriage is not a game!

It’s about finding the right person, at the right time and under the right circumstances so the marriage will be lifelong.

Maybe some men don’t want to get married(like my BF), now or ever.u know the saying,”Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” is true. Women are making it too easy for men. They’re giving sex away. I would hate to say that there are women too (like my elder sis) who also don’t want to get married and never will.

As children, men don’t fantasize about being married–as we girls often do.It takes a while for us to begin to appreciate that marriage is valuable for us and not just for women. It’s easy to see that marriage happens when you fall in love with someone, but even then many men will marry because they want to keep the woman from marrying someone else. So it becomes a way of protecting their investment basically rather than looking at it as something that’s valuable for themselves.

So here’s Ten reasons why men won’t commit, or don’t want to get married.

1. They can get sex without marriage more easily.
2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by living-in rather than marrying.
3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.
4. They want to wait until they are older enough to have children.
5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises.
6. They are waiting for the perfect ‘soul-mate’ and she hasn’t appeared yet.
7. They face few social pressures to marry.
8. They don’t want to marry a woman because of a life-long commitment. .
9. They want to own a house before they get a wife.
10. They want to enjoy single life for as long as possible.(This one’s especially for my BF!!!)

(These findings may not be what women want to hear or believe!!!)

What about you? If you are a married man, what was your “ah ha” moment where you knew you wanted to get married to your girlfriend? If you are a single man, what are your thoughts on marriage? Ladies, what do you think about the idea that men really don’t want to get married but feel pressured in various ways to tie the knot???

After a long time with my BFF!

Squeeeeee! That’s the sound of me being TOTALLY psyched because all is right in the world again!(My BFF just called me!)

Okay her name is Pinx…a person who I trust enough to share everything with and someone who is similar to me,she is the one I have been friendly with since the dawn of time. Reliable, quirky and never nasty or rude, she is just one of the nicest people one could ever find. From time to time we drift apart as we socialize very differently but I think her sensibility and level headedness definitely balances with my more stupid nature, something that is needed frequently.

Im super glad to have  my best friend and Im super proud of her, our friendship and the crazy stuff we end up doing

So here are the definitions of a Best Friend…

1.Some one with whom you really can share everything
2.Some one to blabber everything you have in your head to and hope they make sense of it
3.Some one to keep your stuff safe when you cant manage it.
4.Some one whom you can call up any time of the day/night and still expect them to pick it up and yap and more often than not manage to do so successfully
5.Some one who gives you company when you have the wildest ideas and want to go ahead implementing it
6.Some one to share your secrets with to ensure that you make many more together
7.Some one to dream together with so that you could remind the other one of the many dreams they still have to fulfill
8.Some one you can count on irrespective of how reckless/volatile/senile you may become temporarily
9.Some one who makes you grin no matter how serious the situation is
10.Some one who gives you your space while keeping an eye out for you
11.Some one you can remind that they are on a diet and gladly be of help to munch their chocolate/softy so that no food goes to waste
12.Some one with whom you create memories to cherish and laugh and pull your mood up any time you feel low
13.Some one whom your mom hates more so ‘coz of the phone bill
14.Some one who reminds you of your phone number when you forget and anything else you might have forgotten
15.Some one who points out a very different view of the same issue
16.Some one you know you can talk to about anything and whether they really understand or not, they would store it in memory for future referencing.
17.Some one with whom you can laugh your head off thinking about the crazy things/conversations you have had together
18.Some one who is with you no matter what
19.Some one who reminds you that you need a break
20.Some one who boosts your ego

This is my list! Whats yours?

A rainy night!

A rainy-night is so comforting… it touches your heart and memories flows!

I love these types of nights especially in the summer months when I can sit on my  bed and watch it all through my window.

I love it so much!!!!
The best sleep ever is during rainy nights. The sight and sound of the rain creates this kind of relaxing feeling in the air that just calms you down. The pitter – patter of raindrops is like a comforting lullaby.

It’s just kind of magical  and it adds  freshness in  the air that almost gives a person (like me!) that feeling like things are going to be ok and it’s a chance to forget your troubles and start over new.

Romance-wise if the rain is cold it gives you and your boyfriend a chance to snuggle a little more to keep warm!

There was a rainy night when my love was with me!

As I hear the thundering in the skies,
and each raindrop thud against the ground,
I lie in my bed tucked with open eyes,
Thinking about you and the love we once had.

Cold winds blow in and touch my face,
They whisper to me your name,
They make me yearn for your warm embrace,
which could help me forget all my pain.

I really wish you were with me tonight,
To do things we just love to do,
and so i hug my pillow so tight,
All the while thinking its you.

My heart it speaks to you words of love,
I hope that this you can clearly hear,
I feel your touch, i feel u move,
I know you’re somewhere near.

I need you so badly, on this cold rainy night,
to work your love magic on me,
to kiss me well, to hug me tight,
and to make me sleep on your chest tonight.

If someone now could grant me a wish,
I wouldn’t take a long time to think,
Hope my rhyme clarifies my wish.
I want you tonight this is all my wish.

To send this token of love to you,
I stare up at the rainy-night,
And whisper words from my heart so true,
I miss you baby, please come soon!!!

What does taking a break mean???

I love my boyfriend and he asked for us to take a break because he felt that the problems in his life plus some of my own situations was having an effect on our relationship and holding us back from being able to have the type of relationship we could have.So he had asked for time and space!

Well……to me, taking a break means taking a step back from a relationship that isn’t meeting one or both partner’s needs, and reviewing how the relationship fits into their life picture over the long term. Its about re-evaluating the relationship without the stress of the relationship itself. The problem with ‘taking a break’ is that few people actually define what it means for their relationship.

Does it mean one or both of you can see other people, or do you not want to muddy the waters with more? Can you contact each other like texting or calling! or do you really take a break from interacting on all levels? When does the break end, and how will either of you know it? What outcomes are one or both of you hoping for from taking a break, and do both parties know it?

Teardrops will kiss the morning dew!

“Now all that’s left of me, is what I pretend to be. Sewn together but still so broken up inside.”
I’ve not been able to write anything for a while. I didn’t know how to put the feelings I’ve experienced in the last few days into words.A broken promise from my boyfriend led to an argument!! And now I’m so left-alone!

Well.. Loneliness is one of our greatest dreads. Most of us have felt it. Most of us have feared it.To feel lonely is to be overwhelmed by an unbearable feeling of separateness, at a very deep level. From time to time, we all experience the odd bout of loneliness. Sometimes it can creep up on us during periods of change (like a move or the end of a relationship, for example), and leave us feeling physically or emotionally distanced from other people. Loneliness doesn’t just strike when we’re by ourselves, either. It can be just as easy to feel lonely in a throng of people when you’re feeling disconnected.

Time heals all wounds. Poetry helps too.

I miss the times when you were here
telling me to have no fear
To hold my head up high and strong
add happy notes to my sad song

I miss the way you look at me
As if I were too blind to see
The path I’m on might hurt and scathe
But all goes well if you just have faith

I miss the sound of your sweet voice
Through bitter times a saving noise
That told me what was right and wrong
But rang in my ears for far too long

A caring person, you were such
That helped and hurt me, oh so much
You’d guide and mislead me through the day
You left me lonely when I’d rather you stay

Over things like that you had no control
A rock set in motion will continue to roll
No matter how hard you tug and heave
You were always pushed and forced to leave

Then one day you never returned
My tears so hot they almost burned
Aware now about what I lack
But crying and mourning wont bring you back

For me to let out what I need to say
I can’t do much more than pray
No longer am I weak, my hearts quite strong
From adding a happy chorus to a sad, sad song!!!

How many chances should you give him?

How many chances should you give a guy before you end-up a relationship?

It really does depend on what you are giving him another chance for. It is reasonable to give him a few chances to remember to put the toilet seat down because it is not a major offense like having an affair. The key word is reasonable. If a guy  constantly lies about where he is and you keep catching him, if you don’t end the relationship, you have basically accepted the behavior and it becomes a part of your relationship.

Relationships should have set, permanent boundaries, not temporary ones. If you do not want to be with a guy who lies all the time, then end your relationship with the guy  who is lying to you all the time. When a guy knows he can get away with something, not only will he do it, but he doesn’t fear the consequences of doing it. You cannot say you won’t tolerate a guy who cheats on you and stay with a guy  who continues to cheat on you.

Most people believe in second chances. They want to think they would be given a second chance, and I understand that. It is one thing to screw up at work and hope, or feel you deserve a second chance. It is another to think you can do something that will end a relationship and get a second chance. The things that end relationships are serious in almost all cases. Do they really deserve a second chance when they cheated on you? Definateley  not when they abused you in any way, shape or form. So how many chances should you give him?

Chances are, if you are reading this post, you already gave him too many!!!